Alignment
If you've ever done the physics experiment where you magnetize a nail by stroking it with a bar magnet, you will have an idea of the power of alignment. The nail is made up of many regions called domains which are magnetic, but randomly oriented, so the magnetic effect cancels out. When you stroke the nail with a magnet, you cause the domains to become aligned, with the result that the nail now generates a magnetic field.
The same can be true of people. A group of people working together who are not aligned will tend to cancel out each others' efforts, and produce very little useful result. If that same group of people can be aligned in a common direction much more can be achieved. If you have ever worked in a team which is out of alignment you will know the sheer frustration and hopelessness that results. By contrast, working with a group of people who are in the flow, like a group of jazz musicians improvising together, can be a joyous and creative experience.
As an individual you can lack alignment too - if you have contradictory impulses and conflicting desires, you can end up achieving very little. The warring factions in your personality tend to cancel one another out. One of the effects of training as a submissive can be to highlight these contradictions so that they can be dealt with and resolved.
An example of this can be found in punishment. You may have agreed with your dominant that certain infractions merit punishment, that it is beneficial to help you change and that it will do you good. Still when the time for punishment arrives and you are faced with the reality of a painful experience, your ego will do its best to avoid it. This is where the fantasy of submissiveness meets the reality, and you learn who you are and what you need. It's only when you've reached that moment of simultaneous wanting and dreading, complying and resisting, that you discover how conflicted are your desires.
With that discovery opens the possibility of alignment - firstly with yourself, then with your Dominant, and potentially with a wider community. With this alignment comes the experience of inner peace, confidence and strength. You no longer need to worry, put on a false mask, or make yourself out to be something you're not. You are moving towards becoming whole and authentic.
The same can be true of people. A group of people working together who are not aligned will tend to cancel out each others' efforts, and produce very little useful result. If that same group of people can be aligned in a common direction much more can be achieved. If you have ever worked in a team which is out of alignment you will know the sheer frustration and hopelessness that results. By contrast, working with a group of people who are in the flow, like a group of jazz musicians improvising together, can be a joyous and creative experience.
As an individual you can lack alignment too - if you have contradictory impulses and conflicting desires, you can end up achieving very little. The warring factions in your personality tend to cancel one another out. One of the effects of training as a submissive can be to highlight these contradictions so that they can be dealt with and resolved.
An example of this can be found in punishment. You may have agreed with your dominant that certain infractions merit punishment, that it is beneficial to help you change and that it will do you good. Still when the time for punishment arrives and you are faced with the reality of a painful experience, your ego will do its best to avoid it. This is where the fantasy of submissiveness meets the reality, and you learn who you are and what you need. It's only when you've reached that moment of simultaneous wanting and dreading, complying and resisting, that you discover how conflicted are your desires.
With that discovery opens the possibility of alignment - firstly with yourself, then with your Dominant, and potentially with a wider community. With this alignment comes the experience of inner peace, confidence and strength. You no longer need to worry, put on a false mask, or make yourself out to be something you're not. You are moving towards becoming whole and authentic.
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